The Rational Basis® of Happiness Podcast

Summary

When infidelity enters a relationship, denial can feel safer than truth. This episode explores why people often avoid confronting evidence of a spouse?s unfaithfulness ? and how facing reality, though painful, can lead to emotional clarity and healing.



Transcript

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Female: He's?not having an affair. He could just be involved with, um, I don't know. People who get together to invest things and the place that they invest things is filled with potpourri and that's why his shirts smell so sweet when he comes home. It's possible.

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Male: Yeah, it's possible. It's possible. It's possible we could find your husband neck-deep in potpourri and investing things.?

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Dr. Kenner: That is from Shall We Dance? That's a darling movie. However,?affairs?are not so darling. But if you are in an?affair?yourself and you know what that's like to?live a double life, where you have to hold the knowledge of the?affair?but try to keep it?secret?from your wife and your children or your husband and your children, or if you're on the other end - the person who is the hurt party, not the unfaithful party but the hurt party - and you never suspect that your partner would?betray?you and find out that he or she has, that is a nightmarish situation. You definitely want to get some help. I highly recommend the?book After the Affair. Even if you're not planning to stay together, that's a fabulous book. Sometimes the best thing to do is?to part ways. But that involves a lot of thought going into making life-changing decisions like that.