Dr. Ellen Kenner
Clinical Psychologist
host of "The Rational Basis® of Happiness"


How to Ask
Dr. Kenner
a Question

(This has been a free public service since 1997)

Ask by phone:
The toll-free number is
Why free? See below.

Ask by e-mail:
Although you won't receive as thorough an answer as if you were to phone in live, you can still email Dr. Kenner a question

When to call:
Call any time before 10pm (Eastern Time). If she is not available, she will return your call as soon as she is free.

Call or e-mail?
You will receive the fastest, most accurate answer if you ask by phone. Most calls are answered. Not all emails are answered due to their large quantity.

What you can not ask:
Dr. Kenner does not take calls regarding suicide, medication, legal issues or any matter that threatens life or property and you must contact a local mental health professional, lawyer, doctor or the police if this is the case.

Why for free?
This has been a free public service since 1997. Why would a well known clinical psychologist answer your question for free and pay for the phone call too? Because Dr. Kenner makes her answer available on her podcast / talk show so others with the same issue can benefit. The show is a public service and is question-driven; your questions are the motor of the show.

This is not therapy
Although you will be receiving helpful advice from Dr. Kenner, remember that this is not therapy and cannot replace a fully contextual one-on-one relationship with a mental health professional.


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Habits -
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Intimacy -
Marital intimacy - Use it or lose it - a short interview with D. Barry McCarthy.
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Enjoy all of Dr. Kenner's short podcasts on many topics.

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All quotes are from Ellen's and Ed's romance book:
The Selfish Path to Romance - How to Love With Passion and Reason
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    This Week's Article    

Secrets Happy Couples Know About Selfishness

Sara, like many others, has bought into the code of self-sacrifice: She feels good only when she martyrs herself, but that “good” feeling is short-lived and is soon replaced by feelings of self-betrayal (her shakiness) and resentment toward the man she once adored. ...(more)

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  Ask Dr. Kenner a Question  
  (This has been a free public service since 1997)  
  What is a Call Like?   What Do You Say?  
  • If you ask a question by phone you will be speaking to Dr. Kenner in person so you will get an immediate answer free from a licensed clinical psychologist who deals with this issue all the time.
  • Average wait time is only about four minutes.
  • Average time she will be talking with you is about eight minutes..
  • If you like the advice she gives you, tell your friends. If you don't, tell her. (email)
  • Calls recorded for possible podcast and radio broadcast.
  • Just give your first name (or make up a name for privacy.)
  • Know in advance what you want to ask and try to get to the point quickly.
  • Relax and plan on a friendly fun exchange! Dr. Kenner deals with her callers in a gentle, friendly and inductive manner. She is never abrupt, harsh or dominating.
  • Have a pencil and paper ready so you will be able to write down some of the tips she gives you.

For more information

see the left column on this page titled:
How to Ask Dr. Kenner a Question

  What Previous callers have to say  

"Thanks for taking me seriously!" Don

"Please thank Dr. Kenner for me. I appreciate the time and thought she put into giving me some very useful advice. I found it very enlightening. Dr. Kenner has a very positive and caring approach in her problem solving. I feel very lucky indeed, that Dr. Kenner chose my question as one to be answered. Please give her my kindest regards and warmest thanks." Ellen

"Thank you, Dr. Kenner, for your answer that I already had in my heart.  Now if I can stay focused enough to follow some simple steps to work toward having friends, hobbies, and a career happiness is just around the corner for me."  Bettie

"I wanted to say thank you. Thank you for making me see the reality of my situation. Thank you for the book recommendations." Stacey

"You are coherent, clear, friendly and concise." Frode

"It's good to see someone moving the young science of psychology forward." Dan

"I would like to thank you very, very much. You have helped me achieve moral certainty, and have finally, finally freed me from the manipulative claws of a man I used to date who always seemed so kind, yet was somehow capable of such evil things." Trudi

"Thank you very much for the kind advice. You are 100% right. My wife shouldn’t be able to terrorize everyone in the family and hold our marriage hostage. My kids and I both deserve better. Only I have the power to make this happen, and I am putting the wheels into motion immediately. Thank you for taking the time to listen and help. I felt myself drifting into despair, and I am never going to let that happen again." Doug

THANK you so much that you gave questions to think about. Your attention and advices were very important for me! Jeni

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  Publications Dr. Kenner has written many articles and presented many seminars and courses around the country. She is co-author of a serious guidebook on romance and has produced over 500 podcasts. See search bar above for topics.    

Courses and Seminars
What is Happiness

Humor How humor can help or hurt your chances for happiness
Emotions Emotions and logic are allies in your search for happiness
Terrorism Sometimes the way we cope with terrorism in our own minds and the way we deal with it socially have the opposite effect we intend

Dr. Kenner is a licensed psychologist with an active private practice. Below you can find a therapist and good self-help books. Cognitive Therapy is the gold standard of psychology. Find a Cognitive Therapist anywhere in the country.    

Therapy In Rhode Island
Therapy Outside Rhode Island
How to Choose a Therapist
About Dr. Kenner
What is Happiness

Ask Dr. Kenner a Question
Definitions Explanations of various
points discussed in this web site
Self-Help Articles

Obstacles to Happiness are not always obvious
Understand Your Emotions Emotions and logic are allies in your search for happiness

Thinking Skills (Under Construction) Happiness requires that you are satisfied that your mind deals with people and events in a rational manner
Valuing Skills (Under Construction) Happiness requires that you choose only rational values to seek out and work to obtain
Self-Help Books Dr. Kenner reviews books and audio she recommends on parenting, therapy, self help, career, romance, happiness and other topics.
Self-Help CDs

  Radio Show Hear Dr. Kenner's show The Rational Basis of Happiness® on many radio stations coast to coast and online. Times of day and days of week vary from station to station. In her 15th year on air, she has been a "top 250" talk show host for the past six years.    
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