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Evading the evidence that a spouse is unfaithful (begins exactly at 8 minutes)









































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Female: He's not having an affair. He could just be involved with, um, I don't know. People who get together to invest things and the place that they invest things is filled with potpourri and that's why his shirts smell so sweet when he comes home. It's possible.


Male: Yeah, it's possible. It's possible. It's possible we could find your husband neck-deep in potpourri and investing things. 


Dr. Kenner: That is from Shall We Dance? That's a darling movie. However, affairs are not so darling. But if you are in an affair yourself and you know what that's like to live a double life, where you have to hold the knowledge of the affair but try to keep it secret from your wife and your children or your husband and your children, or if you're on the other end - the person who is the hurt party, not the unfaithful party but the hurt party - and you never suspect that your partner would betray you and find out that he or she has, that is a nightmarish situation. You definitely want to get some help. I highly recommend the book After the Affair. Even if you're not planning to stay together, that's a fabulous book. Sometimes the best thing to do is to part ways. But that involves a lot of thought going into making life-changing decisions like that.