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The Mysterious Valley / Maurice Champagne |
Children’s adventure story |
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Couples Skills: Making Your Relationship Work / McKay, Fanning and Paleg |
Couples Skills is an excellent source for learning essential communication skills. If you can sidestep some erroneous theoretical explanations (e.g., behaviorist or systems theory explanations and occasional moral relativism), you can gain lifetime skills from this book. It includes realistic examples and useful exercises in each of its four sections: basic communication skills, advanced skills, managing anger and conflict, and understanding and changing what goes wrong. |
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Getting Through to People The techniques of persuasion...how to break through the mental and emotional barriers between people / Jesse S. Nirenberg, Ph.D. |
A timeless gem that is well worth reading. He has an extrodinary understanding of how to communicate to get ideas across, how to listen with the purpose of understanding another person, how to deal with heated emotions in conversations, how to detect and deal with another person's irrationality, how to hear mixed contexts in conversation and much more.
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Sting Shift / Smith and Walstad |
Arm yourself against scams, psychics and swindlers of all kinds. Written as an aid for law enforcement.
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Fighting Terrorism / Benjamin Netanyahu |
The Prime Minister of Israel and a noted authority on international terrorists, Benjamin Netanyahu offers a compelling approach to understanding terrorism.
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Before It's Too Late / Stanton Samenow, Ph.D. |
Why some kids get into trouble - and what parents can do about it.
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The Courage to Heal -A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse / Ellen Bass and Laura Davis |
If you've had the nightmarish experience of having been sexually abused and you don't know how to deal with the multiple levels of disturbed feelings you have, this book offers many excellent suggestions. These include recognizing that you can heal, that you don't need to remain a victim for life, recognizing the damage that the abuse has caused in your life, understanding what you did to cope with the abuse, learning how to break the silence, attributing blame accurately, dealing with your feelings of anger, appropriately rebuilding trust (in yourself and with others), and gaining closure and moving on. Although there are sections with which I strongly disagree (e.g., on having a sense of power greater than yourself), this book offers excellent suggestions, examples and exercises. It helps you learn to change ``internalized messages" such as ``I hate myself" and ``What I want doesn't count." The authors encourage learning to live for yourself: ``If you are still trying to please others, if you are still hoping for someone else's approval, then you will never be smart enough, thin enough, successful enough…Try putting aside your father's expectations. Stop comparing yourself to your friend. Think about what you like to do, whom you like to spend time with, what you find worthwhile." If you've been seriously traumatized, I recommend using this book in conjunction with a counselor. |
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Get a Life, Then Get a Man -A Single Woman's Guide / Jennifer Bawden |
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Mind over Mood - Changing How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think/ Dennis Greenberger, PhD and Christine Padesky, PhD |
Ben is 71 years old; he aches all over. His golfing buddy just died and his wife is recovering from breast cancer. His children and grandchildren don't seem to need him anymore. Ben has given up, "I feel half dead already."
Marissa, age 36, has gone through her second divorce. Both of her hus-bands were abusive alcoholics. Her father, starting at age 6, had sexually molested her. She feels worthless. "I'm no good," "I'm a failure," I'm never going to get better," "My life is hopeless," "I may as well kill myself." She has one child, age 18.
Linda, age 29, is a competent professional. She was offered a promotion as a regional supervisor; a promotion involving frequent flying. Just the thought of flying leaves her in a cold sweat, with her heart pounding and gasping for breath. She has had several panic attacks each week. But why, Linda asks? "I support myself, I've managed to buy a small condo, I have good friends and a supportive family, I don't drink or use drugs, I've always lived a good life-why is this happening to me?"
Vic is a 49 year old recovering alcoholic with anger management problems. He feels he has to be perfect. His anger, his perfectionism and his alcoholism are destroying his relationship with his wife, Judy.
These are the four individuals whom you will meet in this workbook. Ben and Marissa suffer from depression, Linda is struggling with panic attacks, Vic is dealing with alcoholism, anger management problems and perfectionism. These individuals want to change, but they don't know how to break out of the thinking patterns that are destroying their lives. The authors of this workbook give them the means to do just that, to learn and automatize new thinking methods. It is fascinating to watch Ben, Marissa, Linda and Vic learn to challenge their old thinking patterns, learn healthy thinking methods and improve their lives.
What are you struggling with in your life? What patterns in thinking have held you trapped over the years? How can you develop and automatize a new way of seeing things that helps get you out of ruts you have maintained over the years? Drs. Padesky and Greenberger give you practice in learning how to make sense of your moods, to identify your own irrational thinking and to base your thinking fully on facts. They even give you a means to challenge old thinking patterns that you developed as a child. I saw Dr. Padesky demonstate these skills at a cognitive therapy conference. I walked away very impressed with her warm, sincere, knowledgeable, creative and rational approach to helping people change. I am delighted to recommend this workbook |
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The SEX-STARVED Marriage - Boosting your marriage libido/ Michele Weiner Davis |
``Show me a couple who has a mutually satisfying sexual relationship and I'll show you a couple I can pick out of a crowd. There's an almost visible bond between them—the gentle touches, knowing glances, laughter and warmth when their eyes meet. You can feel the connection between them." (Davis, p. 32)
How many couples miss this with their partner? Sex becomes a chronic source of tension in too many relationships. One partner has a high drive; the other one has a ``leave me alone" attitude. Michele Davis offers excellent advice for those wanting to rekindle their sexual relationship and strengthen their marriage. She makes astute observations, such as noting the assumption many woman have that their husbands want sex because ``having sex is like scratching an itch; it's a purely physical need." She continues,``I am convinced that one of the grossest misunderstandings about sex is the belief many women have that men desire sex because they just want, or better yet, need a physical release. It's true that men (and some women) love an occasional quickie without much emotional hoopla. However I've been privileged to hear men describe the way they really feel when their wives aren't' interested. And if you've assumed that your husband wants sex just to ``get off," what I've heard will undoubtedly surprise you." (David, p. 56-7)
This book is an easy read, with plenty of relatable examples and excellent tips, i.e., sexy solutions. Davis has an excellent understanding of both partner's dilemmas and she bridges the understanding and communication gap that so often leads couples to divorce or to suffer unhappy marriages. She helps you recapture that mutually satisfying sexual relationship, and more broadly, that soulmate relationship, you may have lost with your partner. |
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| Loving Life - The Morality of Self-Interet and the Facts That Support It / Craig Biddle |
For those who want "to live life to the fullest" and "achieve the greatest happiness possible," this book outlines "the essential means to that end: a proper code of values - a proper morality." |
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