Dr. Ellen Kenner
Clinical Psychologist
host of "The Rational Basis® of Happiness"
 
 

 

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What you can not ask:
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Why for free?
This has been a free public service since 1997. Why would a well known clinical psychologist answer your question for free and pay for the phone call too? Because Dr. Kenner makes her answer available on her podcast / talk show so others with the same issue can benefit. The show is a public service and is question-driven; your questions are the motor of the show.

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The Art of Avoiding Responsibility
by Appealing to a "Moral Authority"

Elisa had had it with her husband. She has been to the emergency room twice after he punched her in the gut and twisted her arm badly. She has taken abuse from him for years. Elisa had had it…that is until this past week. The therapist asked if she wanted to press charges against him as she had been seriously considering doing. No, Elisa replies, he's found God, he says he's mending his ways. ...(more)

   
   
   
         
         
         
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  Obstacles to Happiness  
     
     
  Envy  
 
Envious Girls
 
  • Definitions
  • Listen to audio clip `T5'
    Terrorism and envy
  • Listen to audio clip `T6"
    Envy avoidance behavior
 
     
     
  Terrorism  
  Osama  
  • Sometimes the way we cope with terrorism in our own minds and the way we deal with it socially have the opposite effect we intend
  • Books
 
     
     
 

Psychics

 
  Psychics Sign    
     
     
 

Duty?

 
  Unchosen Obligations   A duty is an unchosen obligation. How could any such thing lead to happiness? Only our responsibility to be rational comes close.  
     
     
 

Toleration?

 
  Toleration?   Toleration is a slippery word. If irrational, it is an obstacle to happiness. But there is a context in which is it appropriate.  
     
     
 

Compassion?

 
  Compassion?   It is appropriate to help others under certain conditions. But why the need to let scoundrels off the moral hook in the name of "compassion"?  
     
     
  Poor Thinking Skills  
  Thinking Skills  

Happiness requires that you are satisfied that your mind deals with people and events in a rational manner. But why must we think in a rational manner? Because if we don't, we will repeatedly fail to achieve our goals, the values we seek, the ability to honestly obtain the basic needs of life. Thinking Skills

 
     
     
  Lack of Goals  
  Lack of Goals  

Happiness requires that you choose, seek out and work to obtain only rational goals, values. Life depends upon our achieving our basic values so the less logical we are, the less likely we will consistantly and reliably obtain the basic needs of life. The purpose of following reason is to live. Valuing Skills

 
     
     
  Lack of Romance  
  Lack of Romance  

Books related to lack of romance

 
     
     
 

Lack of Safety

 
  Lack of Safety   "The basic political principle of the Objectivist ethics is: no man may initiate the use of physical force against others. No man—or group or society or government—has the right to assume the role of a criminal and initiate the use of physical compulsion against any man. Men have the right to use physical force only in retaliation and only against those who initiate its use. The ethical principle involved is simple and clear-cut: it is the difference between murder and self-defense. A holdup man seeks to gain a value, wealth, by killing his victim; the victim does not grow richer by killing a holdup man. The principle is: no man may obtain any values from others by resorting to physical force." Ayn Rand on Force

The initiation of force might get you money but not happiness. Would you raise your son to be a bank robber? To spend his life looking over his shoulder, never safe, never relaxed, never happy?

 
     
     
 

Recommended Reading

 
  Books   Books concerning obstacles to happiness  
 
         
 
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  Publications Dr. Kenner has written many articles and presented many seminars and courses around the country. She is co-author of a serious guidebook on romance and has produced over 500 podcasts. See search bar above for topics.    
 

Articles
Courses and Seminars
Books
What is Happiness
Romance
Parenting
Career
Relaxation
Friendship

Humor How humor can help or hurt your chances for happiness
Emotions Emotions and logic are allies in your search for happiness
Morality
Terrorism Sometimes the way we cope with terrorism in our own minds and the way we deal with it socially have the opposite effect we intend

           
           
  Therapy
Self-Help
Dr. Kenner is a licensed psychologist with an active private practice. Below you can find a therapist and good self-help books. Cognitive Therapy is the gold standard of psychology. Find a Cognitive Therapist anywhere in the country.    
 

Therapy In Rhode Island
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About Dr. Kenner
What is Happiness

Ask Dr. Kenner a Question
Definitions Explanations of various
points discussed in this web site
Self-Help Articles

Obstacles to Happiness are not always obvious
Understand Your Emotions Emotions and logic are allies in your search for happiness

Thinking Skills (Under Construction) Happiness requires that you are satisfied that your mind deals with people and events in a rational manner
Valuing Skills (Under Construction) Happiness requires that you choose only rational values to seek out and work to obtain
Self-Help Books Dr. Kenner reviews books and audio she recommends on parenting, therapy, self help, career, romance, happiness and other topics.
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