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"If a man insists always on being serious, and never allowed himself a bit of fun and relaxation, he would go mad or become unstable without knowing it."                                     HERODOTUS
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(Some of the following is taken from Why I Like Stamp Collecting by Ayn Rand)

Its 7 in the evening and you have just returned from many hours of shopping or at the office. Your spouse is plopped down on the couch watching TV. You hear "God! I need a vacation!" You think "From what? You don't work. What do you need a vacation from?"

Hobbies and  relaxation serve the same function as a vacation; they are ways to refuel your body and mind. But refuel them from what? A couch potato, an office goof-off or a playboy do not spend their days burning any fuel, mental or physical. They have done nothing to take a vacation from. A hobby is an adjunct of, not a substitute for, a career. If one makes a hobby a substitute for productive work, it becomes an empty  escape; an unproductive mind does not need rest.

A hobby can be a remedy for mental fatigue resulting from a profession that involves bringing work home. Often, an hour at a hobby will make you able to  resume your work. It can be an effective brain-restorer.

The more you have done to take a vacation from, the more purposeful you are, the more rewarding a vacation or a hobby can be. But not just any hobby. It also must meet your need for purpose. Collecting soap from different hotels will not do.

To the extent that a hobby resembles a career, it has the added benefit of a career; you can maintain a  purpose over a long period of time. Although people can find pleasure in single occasions, such as a party or a show or even a vacation, this is a pleasure that ends right then and there, with no further  consequences. Yet they need relaxation and rest from their constant, single-tracked drive. What they need is another track, but for the same train - that is, a change of subject, but using part of the same method of mental functioning.

A hobby allows the individual hobbyist to remain in his own private world, under his control. Depending on the hobby, he can avoid the dishonesty and irrationality of other  people he often must deal with in a career. Nobody can interfere with his hobby, nobody needs to be considered or questioned or worried about. The choices, the work, the responsibility - and the enjoyment - are one's own. So is the great sense of freedom and privacy. For this reason, when one deals with fellow hobbyists, it is on a cheerful, benevolent basis. There is the sense of a "brotherhood" of people with shared values.

 
Is gambling or investor trading a legitimate hobby?

Addicted to trading? Six signs that you're headed for trouble:
From Kiplinger's Personal Finance Adviser, August 2001
    "About 5% of all investors take trading to an extreme and become compulsive gamblers, according to the Council on Compulsive Gambling of New Jersey. Here are a few ways to tell if your frequent trading habits signal a serious problem:
Do you trade stocks to ease worries?
Become irritable when unable to trade?
Invest in increasingly speculative offerings?
Borrow from brokers, friends or other sources to boost returns?
Experience extreme highs and lows tied to investment performance?
Keep increasing the size of investments to boost excitement?
If you recognize these traits in yourself or a family member,  your local chapter of Gamblers Anonymous can help. You can reach the national headquarters at 213-386-8789 or www.gamblersanonymous.org"

 
 
 
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