The Rational Basis® of Happiness Podcast

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What gets in the way of happiness?
What makes it so we don't enjoy our lives?

You want to be able to, the essence of this is you want to be able to feel cherished by one another, and if you don't feel he's cheating on you - this isn't necessarily cheating, this is normal for many people to feel attracted to others - then that shouldn't be a problem at all.

Think of what bothers you when you're driving in the car. What makes you grip that wheel? What makes your stomach churn or makes you shaky in your life? Or what makes you feel good, and how can you get more of that in your life? The goal of living is to live your personal values. What you love, to be with your friends. Tonight I went out with a friend and it was absolutely wonderful. To be with family that you enjoy. To just really cherish your life. To pursue the career that you want, to pursue hobbies you enjoy, and of course romance. What gets in the way of all of this? What makes it so we don't enjoy our lives? Now, sometimes there are accidents, things totally beyond our control or anyone else's. A hurricane hits or a tornado, or some of these acts of nature. But sometimes, many times, it's a person in your life who is undermining your confidence in yourself, your confidence in other people, and your hopes for your own future. And I want to start with a quote, again from my favorite author Ayn Rand. This is from Atlas Shrugged, my favorite book. She writes, "Somewhere in the starting years of your childhood, before you had learned to submit to absorb the terror of unreason and to doubt the value of your mind, you had known a radiant state of existence. You had known the independence of a rational consciousness, facing an open universe. That is the paradise which you have lost, which you seek, which is yours for the taking." 

Rediscover your own confidence, your own mind. Learn how to own your life again. Without stepping on anybody else and without being a doormat. Without letting them step on you.