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``My husband drinks too much. He's an alcoholic. When I come home from work, my stomach goes into knots. I see him sitting there on the couch with empty beer cans around him and I know what will happen next. He's going to yell at me that I get him dinner, that I get the piles of laundry in the basket folded. Heck, I just came home from work. He tells the kids to get the heck out of the room and do their homework. They usually hide in their rooms all evening afraid to come out. He calls me foul names, even if front of our six year old. Everything is an argument with him. He's never hit me so I don't feel I have the right to call the cops or anything. He has thrown things and he's looked very menacing. We live in daily fear of him. What are the best ways to deal with him? How do I knock sense into him? Thanks."
``I have a son that's fifteen. He recently started working. He met a girl who he likes... The problem is she is eighteen and in college. They want to get involved with each other and I put a stop to it before it goes further. She made the first move. She offered him a ride. Next, I caught them talking on the phone. I told him to get off immediately and do his homework... From what I know of her she is loud, and when we met, she had a huge attitude. Please give me your opinion."
``Once again I am struck by unrequited love! This time it's worse than ever. I would love to see an entire show on how to deal with tis most serious of man's plagues."
``I am upset. I'm head over heels with my girlfriend Mary and she says she loves me. But the thing that bugs me is that she insists on remaining close friends with her former boyfriend Tom. He calls her, he leaves her messages on a weekly basis, he sent her an expensive birthday gift, I wish he'd butt out. Tom ignores me as if I'm excess baggage. He will drop off a book for her to read and bring her a coffee at work, and he ignores me. I want to tell him to get the heck out of our lives but Mary gets furious when I suggest this. She says she will never break their friendship. Am I wrong to be jealous? Is this normal? What can I do? Should I dump her?"
``I suffer from anxiety. I'm still trying to figure out what's causing it. I went through a lot in my past and I have feelings of guilt and sadness but I don't think my anxiety is caused by those things. I think my anxiety lies in my obsessive mind. Since childhood I feared that bad things would happen to people in my family. I am always worrying that my parents will die. I feel this will never go away. I try hard to push these thoughts out of my mind but it only makes things worse. Is it possible to control your mind? Can I make myself think more positively rather than negatively. I know I have to accept death, and even illness because it's part of life. Its difficult when you're an emotional person. What can I do to get rid of my anxiety? Thanks."
"I'm a 19 year old female university student. I've recently become extremely depressed. I've been contemplating suicide every day. I don't know how I can go on. I'm not happy, even if my family's great to me. I have a wonderful boyfriend and everyone seems to think I am close to perfect. I feel so lost in my life. I do not know what I want for a career. What's my purpose. When I try to analyze our purpose as human beings, my mind goes way off and I am more and more alienated from everyday life. I don't know what to do. I feel scared. Any suggestions?"
"I have been with my boyfriend for four years. We had a great relationship at the start. Now we fight all the time over stupid stuff... I am always accusing my boyfriend of cheating on me when he goes out with friends. I can't trust him unless I know where he is 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Why do I feel this way?..." (continued in full in the answer link)
``My girlfriend's mom is abusive to her invalid dad and uses this as a way to control my girlfriend. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
``Why do some women all of a sudden abandon their female friends as soon as they have a new man in their lives? Two of my friends do this. As soon as they start seeing a guy, they spend all their time with them. They just about cut off communication. For example phone calls and e-mails with other friends. Are these women desperate for a husband or are they possessive and afraid that if they introduce their man to their friends their friends might try to steal him away?"
"I'm a 20 year old and in college and I've always been shyand I fear failure. My mom says I have first-time-itis, that I'm afraid to take risks. This label has stuck with me and I feel I have to fight it. I have an oppertunity to take an internship selling books. ...I think this job would help me get over my first-time-itis... I feel I have a duty to prove I can be on my own...How do I make such a decision?" (continued in full in the answer link)
``My daughter's 14 year old best friend lives across from a 21 year old man. They both have a crush on him. I stopped her from seeing him because I thought it was strange that he was so attentive to these two young girls. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
``My wife says I'm not a happy person. I don't know what's bugging me. She's a recovering alcoholic working very hard on her sobriety. She says something is making me unhappy. I don't see it as she does. Where should I go for help? I do admit she could be right. I am only looking for solutions to a problem that has been going on for many years... I don't see it like she sees it... I never use drugs... I am trying to improve myself... I want some solutions before I get out of control. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
"I'm having a problem with my parents....They've been married for 25 years. Five years ago mom had an affair. Mom and dad decided to stay together but they have given up on ever solving their problems. They have intensely bitter arguments over what to order for dinner or silly things like that. They obviously have trouble communicating what they are really feeling. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
"I live in an elderly high-rise with about a hundred people. One woman is really crazy. I keep away from her. She's been chasing a male acquaintance of mine. Now she is telling people that he is going to marry him. I've known this man for several months and I know this story is false. He does not know that she is spreading rumors. Should I tell him she is saying this or should I not get involved? ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
"I'm a fourty year old. I was divorced a year ago and did not date until I met a woman, Julie, on the Internet. She lives on her own, she never married and has no children. We have had a huge number of conversations on the Internet and telephone. I recently visited her a couple of times. She lives two hours away. And here's my problem. It's my mother. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
"I've been dating the same woman for over two years now. She's 25 and I'm 35. She's Persian and I'm American. She lives with her parents. We are both deeply in love with each other. Our problem is that her parents want to break up our relationship. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
"My mother is 76 years old and has an overwhelming problem. Her house is totally trashed. I'm talking about no room on the floor. Heck, no sight of the floor. Stuff, trash, is all piled up. I discovered that her bed is buried. She is sleeping on her stuff. She compulsively buys and stores useless stuff. ..." (continued in full in the answer link)
I am a great procrastinator. I put everything off till the last minute. I never get schoolwork done on time, I'm late for work, I wait till the last minute to complete something at work that would bring me some nice financial rewards. Procrastination is destroying my life. How do I overcome this problem?
Last year at college I became friends with a girl on the same floor of my dorm. We decided to room together in the Fall. But last week I went to visit her and she has a complete personality change. She has started dressing really messy, like a bag lady... and she swears a lot... she never did any of this before. How can I find out what's wrong and maybe help her without seeming nosey...If she returns to school this way, I will have a miserable time rooming with her."
I am a depressed 16 year old girl who has a very good life, yet I am anorexic, cut myself and drink. With all I have, why am I so unhappy?
I've been married for 10 years. I hate it. My husband was loving and attentive. He'd send me flowers and gifts. Now all I get is a cold shoulder, except when it comes to sex. Then he expects me to make him happy.
He hasn't held a job for a year and he isn't making any genuine effort to get one. I am saddled with the housework, the care of our children and the financial responsibility to make ends meet. I have a full-time job. I am so overwhelmed. I begged him to go to counseling with me. He is dragging his feet. He's an excuse machine. I am beginning to hate looking at his face. Yet I'm terrified that he'll leave. Maybe it's my fault in some way. I feel trapped. How do I deal with him?
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